Postpartum Sexyback

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Hi there. Thank you so much for checking my blog. Your continued support is really appreciated. As I look toward the end of the week I am reminded that my wedding anniversary is coming up. I cannot believe how fast time has gone. .

Let’s Catch Up

shared1We’re going on 5 years of marital bliss and so much has happened since. Let me list the ways:

  • I’ve given birth to two beautiful girls
  • I no longer fit in my wedding dress as a result
  • I found out that I can survive without sleep when necessary
  • I love being at home
  • My body has done for me and my girls than I ever thought it could
  • I have tiger stripes also know as cellulite

Honestly, much more has happened but for the sake of this post I decided to focus on me. In case you missed it, what I listed are the changes in my physical appearance and it wasn’t by accident. 

Physical Confidence

20180902_181353-01796336718.jpegWhen I was younger I was really insecure about how thin I was. It was very common for someone to comment on my weight and my lack of it. I was very self-conscious about my butt, I was told it was too big. I cared about the length of my hair and how I never was able to retain any length. The list goes on. 

Fast forward a few years and I finally see the beauty in my thin frame and every curve of my body. I began to appreciate the woman I saw in the mirror. It also helped when Tyra Banks reposted one of my selfies…good times. But then I got pregnant. 

I knew the weight gain would be temporary and I was expecting a speedy weight loss because I had a plan. I remember the night when I realized that I had nothing in my closet that fit. I wasn’t making a lot of money so it’s not like I could’ve gone on a shopping. I sat down on my bed and I began to cry. My husband came in and consoled me. He reassured me that I was still beautiful in his eyes but at that point it didn’t matter. 

Postpartum 

20170531_165226.gifOnce I had my girls, I was grateful for their health and while I was savouring every part of motherhood, I began to miss my “normal” body or what I grew accustomed to be my “normal” body. I found myself bumping into things. I was becoming clumsy.

My knees were beginning to hurt doing simple squats and lunges. I really hated that. I was feeling aches and pains that I wasn’t accustomed to. I also couldn’t fit into my clothes and my size had gone from 4 to 14 within the span of a year. I found myself shying away from anything that didn’t stretch or hide from my tummy. This began to hurt my confidence. 

How was I going to get my sexy back?

Journey to Sexy

First I had to realize that sexy isn’t based on size but on self confidence. My husband still finds me attractive and so it’s not coming from him. It’s all internal. I needed to shut that voice up and counter it with the truth. Here’s the truth:

  • My body birthed 2 babies
  • my body fed 2 babies
  • my body can move
  • my body continues to surprise me and allows me to overcome any challenge thrown at me

You see my body wasn’t the problem. My mind was. So I decided to start working out. I started buying work out clothes. Cute ones that would brighten my mood. I started participating in challenges that forced me to put on makeup and get dressed. I even started buying clothes that fit and shows off my figure. 

Now here I am loving my body for what it is. I mean why not? My husband doesn’t have that issue. 

Have you felt this way before? 

Mom’s Prep Guide for Sunday Mornings

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I recently wrote about How To Survive Church with a Toddler, and I was asked about  getting ready for church? I thought, that is so true! What about the mornings? Thank God I only have one but for awhile we struggled to even get out the door and very soon we were barely getting anything out of the service because we were so late.

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As much as this post is geared towards Sunday morning it can be applied for all events where you just want to get out of the house in one piece without having to feel like you have fought two worlds wars. I mean there’s no need for you to feel like you are fighting your household when you should be enjoying this time. And yes, getting ready in the mornings can be fun.

As a kid, Sunday mornings sucked. We were always late and we always seemed to run out of time no matter what the situation brought. Fast forward 20+ years and I saw myself conducting business the way it had been my whole life and I knew it was time for a change.

Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance

The five P’s are essential for anything with a goal attached to it.

I absolutely love going to church, my favourite part is the worship. I love to worship. In order for me to get to the worship portion, I have to be there on time. So that became the goal. How do I make it to my place of worship for 11:00 a.m.?

1. Have a goal

You need a goal. A very tangible and specific goal. In my house, I know that if we are to make it on time for worship we need to leave by 10:25 a.m., latest 10:30 a.m. and that is non-negotiable.20171105_104723740541751.jpg

If you have a spouse, share your goal with them. If your kids are of age that they can understand share it with them. When you include everyone in your hopes, dreams and goals you would be surprised at how willing they are to help out. Most of the time, the “world wars” that we as moms fight are because we are trying to do it on our own. We are not alone, we have our family. Families stick together.

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If you start preparing day of, you’re in trouble. Sunday mornings should be as stress less as possible, at least that’s what I believe. If you could remove some of the load off, why wouldn’t you? As much as you think you can’t, you can. Just get ready, the night before.

You know you want to do a twist out, do it the night before. Get your clothes ready, the night before. Get your kids to pick their clothes the night before. Get that diaper bag ready the night before. In the morning, all you really have to do is follow through and eat breakfast. Believe me, things are a lot smoother in the mornings when the thinking has been done the night before

3. Have Fun!

I can not stress this enough. You need to chill out and HAVE FUN! Put on some music, some uplifting music. Dance with your family! Sunday mornings are great. There’s not much sense in going to church angry and mad at your family for making you late. By the way, stop blaming your family for making you late. They can’t make you late, you made you late.

But in all seriousness, HAVE FUN! Everyday you are alive is a good day. You get to be with your family. You love these people, they aren’t perfect but they are your people. Some of them you were very instrumental in bringing into the world. So let’s makes Sunday mornings great.

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Did you enjoy this post? I hope so. If there’s anything I missed please let me know.