Enjoy The Process: Process is Practice for Destiny

Chapter 1: Process is Practice for Destiny

Process. I googled the word “Process” and the definition that came up is “a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end”. Everyone of us is involved in a process of some sort. We all have an end that we have envisioned for ourselves. We have grown up with dreams, fueled by passions and now that we are older, we’ve been given the opportunity to go after them. Our lives can be boiled down to just one word, process. 

From the moment we are conceived there is a process of growth that we are subject to. By the time we’ve reached the age of 5 we start going to school and that will last up until we graduate at the age of 17 or 18, for most of us. Then we undergo a different process. All these pathways ultimately are meant to give us a successful end. That end is our destiny. 

What is process?

Process is practice for our destiny. Most often when we are going through the process it comes with unfairness, hardship, separation (not isolation), transition and growth.  These are just tools used by God to teach us something or to guide and/or influence us into creating the right life habits. 

There is good news. The good news is that it’s temporary. None of this is permanent. It may take a long time, depending on how quickly we learn and/or the size of our destiny. However, rest assured you will not die in the process if you keep going through it. Here’s an example. 

In the Bible, one of my favourite person is King David. I love his boldness, his swagger, his love for God and just how real he is. This man was a man with great power, he wasn’t perfect, but he loved God and submitted to God. But despite his many successes, there were many times he had to go through the process. It wasn’t always pretty and I’m sure he didn’t enjoy it, but the end result was always worth it. He was always without a doubt better than the way he started. 

Unfairness, hardship, separation, transition and growth = fun?!

You’re probably wondering, how am I supposed to go through unfairness, hardship, separation, transition and growth and enjoy it? Transition and growth would make sense to me, personally but the first three, I don’t know. It took me over 10 years to break out of that mindset. I couldn’t enjoy the challenge of going through my experiences because I was looking at it all wrong. 

I wanted everything to be simple and easy. I wanted the answers to every question on the test without learning to use the tools I was given to work out the answers to every question on the test. There is no app to answer every inquiry in the world. Google can’t help me figure out why my father chose not to pursue a relationship with me, nor could it help me figure out why I couldn’t just forgive my father for not being in my life. This was an experience I had to go through. 

I was so busy being angry, I couldn’t see the lesson that God was teaching me. He was putting me in a position where I could forgive those who hurt me and love them despite their offense towards me. He taught me to take the power of my emotions out of my father’s hands and place them in His hands. He taught me to love despite the hurt I suffered and ultimately become sensitive and empathetic to the needs of those who may have felt rejected and alone, including my father. 

It was a dark process, and I don’t wish it on anyone but I’m sure glad I went through it. 

Biblical Example:

King David had his fair share of unfairness. I mean as a boy he’s a shepherd. He takes care of sheep and during this time he is faced with a lion and a bear. Alone! I don’t know about you, but these sheep would’ve been food for the lion and the bear if I was their shepherdess. However, David realizes that the sheep are counting on him for their survival, so he rescues them. Alone. At the time David, couldn’t have known that this would’ve been the practice he needed to defeat Goliath, and yet it was. The defeat of Goliath catapulted his fame throughout the land and gave Israel a much-needed victory. 

One would think that would’ve been the moment he’d step into his destiny and experience success. I mean everyone knew who he was by now. He even had his own song. Samuel had already anointed him, so it should’ve been easy sailing from that point on, right? That’s what I would’ve expected, in fact that’s what I always expect. But not really, it just led him into another process. 

Now he’s got to deal with a hater, the current king of Israel, King Saul. This guy takes David in, gives him his daughter has his wife, and then turns around and tries to kill him. David literally had to run for his life. He was forced to be separated from his home and his comfort. He is doing everything right and now he’s on the run?! The answer is yes. During this time, David sharpened his relationship with God writing some of the most beautiful psalms that we are still reciting today. 

Separation allows us to dig deep and let God lead us where he wants us to. David wasn’t just a warrior. During that period of his life, he no longer was a shepherd boy, but he became a worshipper. He became the man that could lead an entire nation back to the altar of God and change the spiritual trajectory of a nation. 

Then there’s the slip up. He finally becomes king and he manages to mess it all up. He and Bathsheba (a married woman, at that!) end up having a one-night stand. She gets pregnant. He creates a situation to have her husband killed and then marries the girl in hopes that it all goes away. Unfortunately for him, it doesn’t. He humbles himself, repents and out of him comes Solomon, the future king of Israel. The one who builds the temple of God in Israel. 

The Point:

Process isn’t fun, in fact to even say that you’ll enjoy the process is an oxymoron. It’s not meant to be enjoyable. The beauty in going through the process is that at the end of it you will look back and realize that you were simply practicing for a destiny that is bigger than yourself. There’s so much about you that you don’t know, in fact there is a version of yourself that you haven’t even met. That person is kind, thoughtful, wise and full of life lessons. Fortunately, only those who are willing to go through will meet that version of themselves. 

So, go through the process and practice. Practice makes perfect. When perfection meets intention then lives are changed, not just yours but the world changes. Be perfect for your destiny.

Mom’s Prep Guide for Sunday Mornings

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I recently wrote about How To Survive Church with a Toddler, and I was asked about  getting ready for church? I thought, that is so true! What about the mornings? Thank God I only have one but for awhile we struggled to even get out the door and very soon we were barely getting anything out of the service because we were so late.

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As much as this post is geared towards Sunday morning it can be applied for all events where you just want to get out of the house in one piece without having to feel like you have fought two worlds wars. I mean there’s no need for you to feel like you are fighting your household when you should be enjoying this time. And yes, getting ready in the mornings can be fun.

As a kid, Sunday mornings sucked. We were always late and we always seemed to run out of time no matter what the situation brought. Fast forward 20+ years and I saw myself conducting business the way it had been my whole life and I knew it was time for a change.

Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance

The five P’s are essential for anything with a goal attached to it.

I absolutely love going to church, my favourite part is the worship. I love to worship. In order for me to get to the worship portion, I have to be there on time. So that became the goal. How do I make it to my place of worship for 11:00 a.m.?

1. Have a goal

You need a goal. A very tangible and specific goal. In my house, I know that if we are to make it on time for worship we need to leave by 10:25 a.m., latest 10:30 a.m. and that is non-negotiable.20171105_104723740541751.jpg

If you have a spouse, share your goal with them. If your kids are of age that they can understand share it with them. When you include everyone in your hopes, dreams and goals you would be surprised at how willing they are to help out. Most of the time, the “world wars” that we as moms fight are because we are trying to do it on our own. We are not alone, we have our family. Families stick together.

2. Prepare the night before20190209_185643-ANIMATION.gif

If you start preparing day of, you’re in trouble. Sunday mornings should be as stress less as possible, at least that’s what I believe. If you could remove some of the load off, why wouldn’t you? As much as you think you can’t, you can. Just get ready, the night before.

You know you want to do a twist out, do it the night before. Get your clothes ready, the night before. Get your kids to pick their clothes the night before. Get that diaper bag ready the night before. In the morning, all you really have to do is follow through and eat breakfast. Believe me, things are a lot smoother in the mornings when the thinking has been done the night before

3. Have Fun!

I can not stress this enough. You need to chill out and HAVE FUN! Put on some music, some uplifting music. Dance with your family! Sunday mornings are great. There’s not much sense in going to church angry and mad at your family for making you late. By the way, stop blaming your family for making you late. They can’t make you late, you made you late.

But in all seriousness, HAVE FUN! Everyday you are alive is a good day. You get to be with your family. You love these people, they aren’t perfect but they are your people. Some of them you were very instrumental in bringing into the world. So let’s makes Sunday mornings great.

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Did you enjoy this post? I hope so. If there’s anything I missed please let me know.