When it comes to red lipstick, I try my best to get them all. Not all reds are the same and there are some that I’ll steer clear of.
For example, any lipstick with extremely drying formula is a no go for me. The fall/winter weather is harsh on my skin, I don’t need to add to its demise. That’s why I’m careful to wear lipstick that don’t dry my lips out too much.
I don’t discriminate between matte and gloss colour. It all depends on my mood. Some days I wear matte and some days I don’t.
I’m all about quality. The quality of the lipstick will either give me a boost of confidence or make me feel self conscious.
I never thought I had a toxic relationship with money. In fact, I thought I was doing very well with my money. I was paying my bills for the most part. I was working and doing everything I thought I was supposed to be doing. I wasn’t splurging. In fact, I always made an excuse as to why I couldn’t afford some of the things I saw my friends, who were making less money than me, afford. I thought I was living humbly and what a fraud that turned out to be.
When I think of my view of money there’s this acceptable amount that I’ve limited myself to. I’ve come to realize that there are certain childhood truths that I’ve come to believe and have been living off of them. Some of them have been told me and now deeply ingrained into my brain. Others, I’ve just translated into my own personal belief.
Some of these truths I believed and some of them I’m working on are:
I lose more money than I make
I’m not allowed to spend money on myself if there’s a cheaper alternative. Even if I like it.
There’s not enough money for me.
Everyone gets theirs first. I get mine last.
I don’t deserve to live in luxury.
When it comes to money, for some it can be a taboo subject. You can either be great with it and love it or be terrible with it and hate it. Most of that comes from our childhood. As a child, I saw my mother struggle to make ends meet. She had three kids to clothe, feed and provide shelter for as well as for herself. I learned very early on that asking for things wasn’t always going to be met with acceptance. That resulted in me not wanting to ask for anything or feeling guilty for asking for anything. I often felt like a burden for liking things that were deemed expensive. It wasn’t long before I began looking at price tags before presenting a request to my mother. Anything I thought was too expensive, I would immediately put away and say I didn’t like it even though I wanted it for myself.
When did it start?
The foundation of my unhealthy perspective of money carried well over until now. Though I am glad to say that some things have changed. Luxury is no longer something I’m afraid to have for myself. Money doesn’t scare me anymore like it used to. I still get some anxiety when shopping for certain items especially when the price tag is higher than what I deem acceptable. The last time I splurged on myself I couldn’t even finish the purchase myself, I literally sent my husband in to make the purchase for me.
I’m unlearning these practices in order to make room for the abundance that I’m believing and claiming for myself. In order to do that I must acknowledge these toxic traits. Once they are acknowledged I must be willing to do the work. Part of that work is to speak differently to myself when it comes to money. In fact, I must create new truths to override the ones that I’ve embedded into my financial genetic code. I have got to do some rewriting. But furthermore, I have to believe what I’m saying and be able to accept these truths for what they are.
I make money in abundance so much so that my net worth will exceed my expenditures.
A price tag does not determine how much I want or like an item.
There’s ALWAYS enough money for me. ALWAYS!
I am not exempt to receiving when it’s my time.
Luxury is my birthright. I deserve to live in luxury.
Saying these statements out loud is the easy part, believing them is the hard part. I know this will take time but I’m confident that these little steps will allow me to live my life to its fullness. I’ve been working on this for a while and so far I’ve been able to successfully pay a student debt. I’ve still got more to do, but there’s no sense of dread anymore. I’m confident that tomorrow will look better than today.
Not bad for a girl who’s been homeless three times, huh?
Hi there. Thank you so much for checking out my blog today. I know that this past year has a roller coaster that none of us were prepared for. One minute, we were planning our weekend getaways and the next we were discussing zoom parties. Some of us became social media activists while simultaneously becoming banana bread experts and Netflix connoisseur. However, your year I am sure that at some point you got to the point where you were feeling overwhelmed by it all. Maybe you’re feeling this way right now. If so, welcome. Take a seat and let me help you take your mind off things.
Are You Overwhelmed?
In short, the answer most likely is a big, fat yes. You may not be out of the house as much but that doesn’t mean you’re any less busy. As a stay at home mom, I know for a fact that I’ve had to find new creative ways to get my work done while simultaneously keeping two little ones, fed, entertained and clean. The more we stay at home, the more our living spaces get dirty. The more inspired I get to “spruce” up our home decor. Sometimes, I want to try a new recipe. We go through more waste and we order out more in order to help our local restauranteur and for the most due to our lack of desire to cook.
I find myself constantly looking online to see what new inspiration I can draw from in order to create better content, while finding myself either entertaining the latest gossip or keeping up with the last current events. Also, you may find yourself engaging with some really toxic individuals with nothing better to do than to spew hate online. That can take a toll on your mood and your mental health if you’re not careful.
So yes, with everything you personally have going on, just because you’re staying home doesn’t you’re immune from everything else that’s going on out there. So many people have taken breaks from social media as a result just so that they could recharge. I’ve personally pulled back from so many social media commitments because I found myself not being able to keep up with the trends.
Are You Doing Too Much?
In my case, I was doing too much. Last year, I had received so many opportunities and in January the Walmart commercial that my family and I were featured in had just been released, I thought how can I recreate this and go bigger. So I did more. Then I got pregnant and when that first trimester morning sickness hits, watch out!
I found myself unable to keep up with this new standard of work that I had given myself. I was exhausted all the time, which made me a miserable person to be around. I was doing too much. My priorities were all shifted because I wanted to recreate a moment in my life where things felt normal again. I wasn’t having fun anymore and I was tired all the time. I needed to take a step back and figure out what was important to me.
Maybe you need to cut some things off. It could be something as simple as decreasing the amount of time you spend online, or maybe spending less time with that toxic individual and focusing more on yourself and the things that make you happy. Maybe you just need a reset and get back to what makes you feel the most at peace.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed. It lets us know that something is wrong and it needs to change. The good news is we can change it for the most part. We change need to scale back and shift our priorities around.
I hope this helped you put things in perspective. Let me know in the comments how you handle things when you feel overwhelmed?
What does parenting during a pandemic look like? To be honest it’s different for every single parent. Some have found their strides and are managing it quite well. For the rest of us that is not the case. I speak from a personal point of view, so it’s assume that I don’t speak for the majority of moms.
This time last year, I was on maternity leave for my second born. So my paycheck was guaranteed for the next few months. Mind you it wasn’t much but it gave me enough time to build my social media brand and to really come to terms with what I wanted to do. Did I want to be a full time stay at home mom? Did I really want to be a social media content creator? Could I thrive at both? But most importantly would I be good at it?
My husband I knew that if we both worked full time, the money we made would go towards everything except the life we wanted for our family, so staying home wasn’t that much of an issue. What worried me was whether or not I’d become a burden to my husband. Most mothers give up their careers to care for their children, not because we’re not independent, intelligent individuals but ultimately because it’s what’s best for our families. I knew that if we could do this together our family would thrive but most importantly our children would have the advantage of having one of us available without either of us worrying about out babies.
My husband was able to retain his job during the pandemic and all the uncertainties it brought with it. He worked and I stayed home. At first it wasn’t so bad. I had a schedule for me and the girls. Of course I was exhausted. All the places that we’d normally bring our girls to exert their energies were closed except for the park. So we got creative. We go on car rides and do car activities. My husband is very good at finding outdoor activities, like going to the zoo, outdoor picnics and going to the beach all while maintaining a safe distance.
Home life wasn’t so bad at first either. I started teaching my three year old to read and write as a way to prepare us for a possible homeschool life. We started baking banana bread like every family. We made a digital tv cooking show and even shot a Wal-Mart commercial. Things were going to be ok, after this wasn’t going to last long and soon life would be back to normal. Or so I thought…
It seems like month after month, the news got grimmer and grimmer. More and more my social media feed was filled with conspiracy theories, hate crimes and just another death inspired by racism. I was triggered by how normal it became to see another name becoming a hashtag. Trauma became part of the new normal and I hated it. I had seen enough trauma growing up and I don’t know why it seemed to be a continuous sight for me to see. But worse, is now I’m a mother and how am I supposed to raise well adjust Black girls in a world that is constantly telling they are not for us and our well-being?
A year later, I’m at home writing this post. I am four pregnant. I hate the cold so naturally I hibernate within my house like I do every winter. I still am teaching my girl to read, write and do arithmetic. She continues to impress me. I wish I could take them to an indoor trampoline park so my second born to jump around with her sister. I wish we could go to the McDonald’s Playplace where my girls would make a temporary friend while my husband and I would enjoy our cheap dates but alas now our time together looks different.
It usually takes place after the babies have gone to bed. We order something off of UberEats and catch up on the adult television shows on Netflix. During the day, I try to keep the schedule the same, keeping in mind that I need to schedule some time for myself, which I’ve been neglecting more and more lately. Some days I get my list done and I feel confident, other days I just want to crawl in bed and be taken cared of.
It’s not always pretty but we’re getting by one day at a time. Hanging on to the knowledge that this too shall pass.
Hi there! Happy New Year! I want to start off by saying thank you so very much for joining me here. I know that you could be doing anything and you are here. I appreciate that a lot. Just to let you know that this post may contain affiliates links. If you want to support me as a content creator, by all means purchase through the links provided in the post. You will never pay more, but you may save some money. At the same time, I will get a small commission. It’s a win-win for us both.
Lately, there’s been a few faces coming to my blog and I am so happy you are here. It is my pleasure to make your acquaintance. Whether you’re here for my life hacks, my skin care, hair care and/or thoughts on life I’m grateful that you’ve made the decision to keep visiting my blog.
A bit about me…
My name is Sandy Esprit. I am a stay at home mom and full time social media content creator. I have mothered two girls and am married. I love what I do and am very grateful that I get to live this life. Of course I’m giving you the short form version of my life because well I always wanted to hide my past. However I want my life to inspire others and that can’t happen unless I open up that Pandora’s Box.
Into My Past We Go…
I grew up in a single parent home, where my mother was the sole bread winner. I understood the value of hard work and the value of a dollar. Growing up we didn’t have a lot growing up, but we always had food to eat and a roof over our head. It wasn’t always easy. In fact, my mother worked hard every day but at times it seemed like that hard meant nothing.
We never stayed in one place too long. I went through 13 different schools because we kept moving so much. I don’t have any childhood friends other than my little sister. Honestly, she’s my best friend by default. We were each other’s rock. I feared relationships growing up. I didn’t trust people. It was hard to open up and when I did I overshared.
I’ve been homeless at least three times. I’ve lived in a country illegally for a few years. I know what it’s like to suffer in silence. I had my first panic attack at the age of 13 and had to navigate it alone. There were times when I felt like I was put in situations where I was used as a means to bridge familial disputes. As a child, that’s not a situation that made me feel loved or appreciated.
But we got through it by God’s grace.
Here we are…
Eventually, my life levelled out. I went to school and graduated. I attended the University of Ottawa where I majored in Biochemistry and took a minor in music. I wanted to study music but I wasn’t allowed so I went with my second love, science. It took me six years but I did it.
I always wanted to help people and make them feel valued, like they could do anything. I hated that feeling of insecurity and instability. That became even more prevalent when I was pregnant with my first born. I loathed it and wanted to protect my daughter from ever feeling this way, which is why I started blogging.
I didn’t see anyone who looked like me articulating my likes just as much as my insecurities. Everyone looked so put together and well curated. Meanwhile I was hot mess. So, I became vulnerable and posted about my fears. It wasn’t always well received but I felt better owning my story.
People were relating to me. I was inspiring people get through their day-to-day and I wanted my daughter to see me as a woman instead of just mommy. Because one day they’ll be my age and they may face the same struggles I face today as a woman. They need to know that they’re not alone. Most importantly, they’ll be ok.
Hi there! I just want to start off by saying thank you so much for checking out my blog. You could be doing anything, anywhere but here you are with me and this brings me so much joy. Just to let you know that this blog contains products that I’ve received from Influenster for free for testing purposes. Also, I have some affiliate links listed in this blog. If you so happen to want to try these items out and you purchase it from this blog you will be supporting me so that I can keep doing what I love. As always, all opinions expressed are strictly my own and I promise to spill all the absolute truth in this post.
I absolutely love these books and so does my girls. I love them so much I’ve written a review about it. You can check it out here. I love how diverse they are and empowering. I believe these books are amazing.
For the make up lover in your life you cannot go wrong with these items. They are affordable and super easy to use. These items were gifted to me.
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The Sephora Collection Wild Wishes Cream Lip Stain Set is a matte, liquid lipstick set with six bestselling full-size Cream Lip Stains for the price of two. This silky and long lasting liquid lipsticks are comfortable to wear thanks to the avocado-oil-infused formula. The high-coverage color glides on smoothly, drying with a stunning matte finish. Try (or gift) this top-selling set for an experience that won‘t disappoint.
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I was gifted these items by Charlotte Tilbury and I fell in love. So much so that I made a whole vlog about it. Check it out here.
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Today I’m releasing a new(old) youtube vlog and since the holidays are upon us I thought it would be a good idea to highlight some of my favourite brands. Hi there! Thank you so much for checking out my youtube video. This week I decided to highlight some of my favourite Black owned Businesses and Brands. Ever since June of this year I’ve decided to go and support as many Black owned businesses as I could. I wanted to make a difference in my community and for me this is the easiest way I could do so. I was inspired by @HabluTV and their “Support Black Business Challenge” to do this video. I believe that this time of year is the perfect to find the perfect gift for yourself and your loved without breaking the bank and knowing that you are making a difference locally. Most of these brands are Canadian Black owned I love them all so very much. So please go and support.
Which brands do you recommend I try next? Let me know in the comment sections
Hi there! I want to start off by thanking you for visiting my site. You could be anywhere doing anything but you’re here with me and I really appreciate it. This post is different from what I usually do since I’ll be focusing on fashion, specifically a fashion item that can be worn stylishly in three different ways. The denim shirt.
Disclaimer: If you want to shop any of these looks, by all means, please follow me on liketoknow.it or click the link. Every purchase made on that site will provide me with a coin or two tossed my way. That of course is one of the ways you can support me and help me turn my hobby into a full-time paying gig.
For starters, I want to set the record straight. In the spirit of honesty, I borrowed this denim shirt from my husband’s closet. He doesn’t know yet, and the plan is to keep it that way.
I fell in love with wearing my husband’s shirt when I was pregnant with my firstborn daughter. I gained quite a bit of weight and I was unprepared, so his closet offered me all the room I needed to grow but with the improper fit. Today, with the help of so many online stylist I know that I can cinch the shirt at the waist by tying a knot in the middle, it gives a false illusion of the hour glass figure. Also it looks like I’m dressing with a baggy shirt on top on purpose in a stylish way that looks cute.
I paired this shirt, with a strapless, sweetheart, knee length mint dress. The colour combinations screams youth and spring and rejuvenation and refreshing etc. In other words, it’s super cute and comfy and I look young.
Denim on demin:
This is my favourite look. I don’t have to worry about matching or whether or not it makes sense. Denim is universally cool. In order to avoid it looking too monochromatic, I made sure that the pant were a different of indigo. Otherwise, in my humble opinion it would be too boring.
Denim and the long skirt
It’s fall and for me it means that I’m not shaving my legs. In all honesty, I haven’t shaved my legs since I gave birth to my second daughter so I really don’t care. However, just because I don’t shave doesn’t mean I want others to see the state of my hairy legs. I mean I still care…not really.
I love long skirts. It’s like a blanket for my legs except there’s an opening at the bottom. I chose this grey lightweight ankle length skirt because in my opinion it makes my legs appear longer and taller…and because it’s like having a blanket around my legs.
How do you wear your denim? Let me know in the comment section.
Hi there! Thank you so much for checking out my blog. It is my pleasure to have you on my site. You could be anywhere doing anything, but you chose to be here with me and I’m so grateful. For the month of November I have decided to take part in NaBloPoMo. This means that everyday, for this month, I will be posting one new blog. Today I will be discussing the one thing that you need to do in order to change your life for the better.
I’m serious! If you want to change the trajectory of your life and you absolutely want to achieve your dream this one single trick will help you out. Ok I’m over exaggerating. But this one trick will help and greatly increase your chances of achieving your goals no matter how little or how big you think they are.
Before we continue, I just want to inform you that there will be affiliate links in the post below. If you click on the link below and chose to make a purchase, I promise that you will not pay any more money and in some cases you may actually save money. In turn, I may get a few coins tossed at me and this will help keep the costs low so I can keep doing this long term. There’s no pressure and I promise not to love you any less.
Now that we got that out of the way, let me introduce you to …
WRITING THINGS DOWN!
I am not be where I want to be yet, but I know a thing or two about overcoming big obstacles and having to work my way around some unwanted (and at times unnecessary) challenges. I completely understand the fear that some of us are dealing with as we try to navigate through life. But believe me, everything you need to get started you already have. If you have a pen and paper then you are on your way.
We all have dreams, goals, passions and desires. We all want to lead a happy and successful life where we inspires those around us to also live happy and successful lives. For some of us, especially if you grew up without the support that most children need to succeed, you may feel inadequate or ill equipped to go after said dreams. I know because that was me.
Some people call it manifestation others call it working by faith, I call it turning your vision into your mission. I don’t understand the science behind it but I know from personal experience that things all of a sudden began to change when I started writing things down and here’s the reason why.
Writing down your goals, dreams or your vision causes you to get clear on exactly what you want and where you want to be. You can ask questions (as you should) and create an honest internal dialogue about who you are as a person vs the person you see yourself being. In fact, you can start connecting the dots as you begin to see the miracle of your life begin to take shape. It keeps you focused on the journey ahead so that no matter what happens you can remain steadfast in your choices.
Did you know that you are 42% more likely to achieve these goals, if you write it down? And if you decide to get real specific about what you want the chances increase 1.2 to 1.4 times more likely to achieve them. The numbers don’t lie. All because you’ve given your mind something specific to attain. You’ve made it clear about the trajectory of your life. It’s your life after all.
What goals are you going to start writing down? I can’t wait to hear your success story!
Hi there! Thank you so much for checking out my blog. Your support is greatly appreciated and believe me I do not take it for granted. This post does contain product that I’ve received for free but it does not change how I feel about them. All opinions expressed are simply and honestly my own.
When it comes to body care, the weather change may cause our skin to change drastically. The older we get more changes we notice and the more care we must take. I know with all the information that’s out there, it can be hard to find the right body care products.
Personally, my skin is in love with moisture, hydration and…did I mention moisture? It is the only thing that can satisfy my stressed, damaged and simply overdramatic skin. This is why I look for products with ingredients such as hyaluronic acid, niacinamide, shea butter and jojoba oil. All of these ingredients not only moisturize my skin but reinforce my skin barrier so that it can remain soft and healthy.
In my latest vlog, I mention my top 3 favourite body care products for Fall of 2020. I mention a fan favourite, a new found favourite and one that is from a Canadian Black Woman owned business.
Just because we aren’t heading outside doesn’t mean that our skin isn’t susceptible to the dry air in homes. This is mostly due to heater being on.
By all means check it out and let me know if your favourite made the list.
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