Are You Overwhelmed or Overdoing it?

Hi there. Thank you so much for checking out my blog today. I know that this past year has a roller coaster that none of us were prepared for. One minute, we were planning our weekend getaways and the next we were discussing zoom parties. Some of us became social media activists while simultaneously becoming banana bread experts and Netflix connoisseur. However, your year I am sure that at some point you got to the point where you were feeling overwhelmed by it all. Maybe you’re feeling this way right now. If so, welcome. Take a seat and let me help you take your mind off things.

Are You Overwhelmed?

In short, the answer most likely is a big, fat yes. You may not be out of the house as much but that doesn’t mean you’re any less busy. As a stay at home mom, I know for a fact that I’ve had to find new creative ways to get my work done while simultaneously keeping two little ones, fed, entertained and clean. The more we stay at home, the more our living spaces get dirty. The more inspired I get to “spruce” up our home decor. Sometimes, I want to try a new recipe. We go through more waste and we order out more in order to help our local restauranteur and for the most due to our lack of desire to cook.

I find myself constantly looking online to see what new inspiration I can draw from in order to create better content, while finding myself either entertaining the latest gossip or keeping up with the last current events. Also, you may find yourself engaging with some really toxic individuals with nothing better to do than to spew hate online. That can take a toll on your mood and your mental health if you’re not careful.

So yes, with everything you personally have going on, just because you’re staying home doesn’t you’re immune from everything else that’s going on out there. So many people have taken breaks from social media as a result just so that they could recharge. I’ve personally pulled back from so many social media commitments because I found myself not being able to keep up with the trends.

Are You Doing Too Much?

In my case, I was doing too much. Last year, I had received so many opportunities and in January the Walmart commercial that my family and I were featured in had just been released, I thought how can I recreate this and go bigger. So I did more. Then I got pregnant and when that first trimester morning sickness hits, watch out!

I found myself unable to keep up with this new standard of work that I had given myself. I was exhausted all the time, which made me a miserable person to be around. I was doing too much. My priorities were all shifted because I wanted to recreate a moment in my life where things felt normal again. I wasn’t having fun anymore and I was tired all the time. I needed to take a step back and figure out what was important to me.

Maybe you need to cut some things off. It could be something as simple as decreasing the amount of time you spend online, or maybe spending less time with that toxic individual and focusing more on yourself and the things that make you happy. Maybe you just need a reset and get back to what makes you feel the most at peace.

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed. It lets us know that something is wrong and it needs to change. The good news is we can change it for the most part. We change need to scale back and shift our priorities around.

I hope this helped you put things in perspective. Let me know in the comments how you handle things when you feel overwhelmed?

Five Ways To Put Your Best Face Forward

Hi there! Thank you so much for checking out my blog. Just to let you know I am not a dermatologist, esthetician nor am I, a skin care specialist. I am just a mom of who had problematic skin for the majority of my life and has now figured out a way to keep my skin looking pretty.

FYI, some of the products featured on this post have been gifted to me. However, all opinions are strictly my own.

Ever since, I entered puberty my face and I have been at war. Between the targeted acne commercial and the ill council of my elders I entered a battle I had no way of winning. I had oily skin, acne and nobody knew what to do to help. As I got older, I took control of my health and began to find inexpensive ways to restore on my chaotic skin.

Skin Care Regimen

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First I needed a skin care regimen that actually would benefit my skin and my skin alone. Those I was living with, as a teenager, did not have the expertise to diagnose my skin. Also, it helps to be able to afford what goes on your skin.

Despite my oily skin, soaps were too harsh and the body creams were too heavy on my already battered skin. That’s when I started experimenting with different skin care lines until I found the right regimen for me.

Exercise

It goes without saying that nothing beats having your body move, getting the blood pumping and the endorphins flowing. Did you know that exercise keeps your skin looking amazing? By exercising you are forcing your blood to carry oxygen  and nutrients everywhere in your body including your skin. According to webmd.com, exercise also is a great way to release stress. Stress has been known to cause unnecessary visitors to appear on the skin. Those unnecessary visitors are acne. 

So if you needed another reason to start exercising, how about clear skin?

Healthy Eating

We’ve all heard about how junk food can negatively impact the health of our skin, turns out it’s not an old wive’s tales. There’s actually truth to it.

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Healthline states that adding foods that are high in fatty acids you can help your body create collage which decreases the appearance of wrinkles. So go ahead and order that avocado on toast, your skin will thank you.

Vitamins

If you’re like me, you probably find yourself ordering out a lot, or snacking on chips and cookies more than you’d like to. So healthy eating may not be at the top of your list. To remedy that, I personally supplement with vitamins.

Lately, I’ve been indulging myself to the Neocell Beauty Bursts. They taste so good and they provide my body with collagen. A protein that is essential in the maintenance of my hair, skin and nails. Believe me, after birthing two babies I need all the help I can get.

Sleep

Beauty sleep is an actual thing and we all need it. According to Healthline, lack of sleep causes an increase in cortisol. If cortisol sounds familiar it’s because it’s been in so many fat reducing supplement commercials, which I’m sure you’ve seen. Cortisol is a stress hormone and too much of it can cause acne. It can also break down the collagen and hyaluronic acid in the skin. Collagen and hyaluronic acid are our skin friends and without them, our skin loses it’s pretty.

Final Thoughts

Maybe your skin care remedy is just a tweak in your daily routine or your lifestyle. Beauty is deeper than skin, but that doesn’t mean you should disregard. Put your best face forward, you totally deserve it.

What’s been the one thing you’ve done that has changed your skin for the better?

Quarantine, Mom Guilt, etc.

Hi guys! I know that I have been MIA for a while now. I’ve been inconsistent and I’m hoping to change that. Currently, my house looks like it’s suffered the invasion of the Jumanji jungle. I’m so exhausted that I’m nauseous. My toddler has a birthday coming up and I’m scratching my head trying to figure out how I can make her day special.

We, like many other families, are transitioning into a new normal. One that we didn’t plan for, it came unexpectedly. Even though, this is only temporary, it doesn’t change the fact that we are all feeling the effects of it.

I’m not going to lie. There have been many good that has come out of it, personally speaking. I’m sure that my daughter would agree that I’ve allowed her to do more arts and crafts. I’ve become less concerned about the state of cleanliness, or so it seems. Inside I cringe at the mess that I see and keep it all inside until I can grab a broom and frantically create a space that calms my spirit.

Cleaning has become my coping mechanism. That and working out, singing, painting, listening to worship music, my “at-home” photo shoot, doing my daughter’s hair, binging Law & Order,  pretty much anything that I can do to make me feel productive and avoid being outside. Better yet, avoid feeling anxious. I’ve never been good at feeling anxious. I don’t like stress.

I can hide stress, I know how to act under pressure. I know how to hide, suppress and avoid stress. You see, I was taught at an early age to see and not react. I was trained to be seen and not heard. I can execute any role flawlessly on the surface but when it comes time to voice my concerns, problems arise. This is one skill I refuse to pass on to my children.

So you see, I have concerns like everyone else. I am scared of contracting this virus not because of what it will do to me but because of how it will affect my husband and children. I don’t want to be separated from my family. I don’t want them to be separated from me. I’ve got a 6 month old that I’m still breastfeeding. I don’t want to stop giving her my milk. I don’t want to miss any monumental event in their lives. I know how my girls speak and they understand me. I like us. I don’t want them to see this weakness and because I associated this anxiety as weakness I do all that I can to hide it from them.

So I make up for it by looking for crafts that my girl can do quietly.  I stay at home with my girls like a good citizen, avoiding the news, but staying up to date via the internet research. I find entertainment on social media. I try to hug my girls as much as possible. Most times it’s not to the level that I envisioned. I don’t sleep like I should, therefore I am tired. When I am tired I get cranky. I lose my cool way more than I would like. I’ve had to apologize more than I’d like to admit. I carry the weight of shame for not being the emotionally supportive wife to my husband and mother to my children, but most importantly, friend to myself. It transferred into mom guilt and has kept me from really being the blessing I was made to be to everyone including myself.

I felt guilty because I feared that I wasn’t creating a space where my girls could thrive emotionally. I felt guilty because I felt like I should know better and do better. I felt like I wasn’t being the “good” mom I believe my girls deserved. I saw myself repeating certain traits I saw growing up and I began to resent myself for allowing it to continue. I couldn’t understand why I would fail the same God who gave me these children and in turn fail them.

Turns out, I was wrong. My husband made sure to point that out.

I was doing my best. My best is good enough.

So wherever you are, whoever you are I hope you know that you are not alone. You are not feeling this by yourself. It’s normal to feel guilty. It’s normal to feel anxious. It’s normal for it to hit you like a ton of bricks a month after social distancing laws have been enforced. It’s totally normal.

So give yourself grace. Give yourself room to learn, adapt and evolve. You’ve made it this far being able to overcome every obstacle and challenge you faced up until now. You will get through this and you will be better because of it.

Speak life and forgiveness into your soul. Take a breath and note every single blessing you’ve been given at this time. Because believe me it won’t last forever and soon we’ll be back to saying “I wish I had more time…”