5 Things I Wish I Didn’t Have To Learn The Hard Way

Hey there! Thank you for reading my post today. I’m so happy you decided to check out what goes on in my head. This past month has been super busy, but in a good way.

There was laughter, tears, hope, distress, trials and victories. All of this, and it’s just the beginning of Summer.

As I reflect on my short time as a mother, there are so many things I was warned about but I definitely had to either learn it or experience it through trial. No amount of books or testimonials could have prepared me for my journey as a mother.

Some of it sucked balls!

But some of it was amazing.

So here goes…

  1. Everyone has an opinion on how you should be with your child 20180614_185420She is living her best life

The irony in all of this is that, this should concern you and your child but no. Somehow any one and every one seems to have the magic elixir to “help” you, when in reality it can make a moment that’s supposed to be fun and enjoyable, really frustrating and annoying. Personally, I found myself questioning whether or not I was fit to even be a mother. Then I woke up and realized I’m a queen raising a queen and we don’t need any type of negativity in our lives.

So I said, “I’m good love, enjoy!”

Most people mean well, even though they don’t know when to shut up or keep their opinions to themselves. Of course, most advice are sound. But at the end of the day, it’s YOUR child. Enjoy this moment. You are both learning. Cut yourself some slack.

2. Things never go the way you want them to 

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…like this picture

That’s really more of a life lesson that I keep refusing to learn. In my mind, by now my one-year old should be sleeping through the night, completely weaned off of the breast, have a full head of hair like all the instagram babies that are trending and I should’ve had all stuff together so that I could be a full-time stay-at-home mom and a social media rockstar.

*insert record scratch*

yea, that didn’t work out too well.

And that’s ok!

So what she doesn’t sleep through the night? So she still likes breastmilk, and so what? So what she’s a little rough around the edges and loves to explore and isn’t afraid to get dirty? So what? My daughter is the way she is and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

So I had to adjust. That’s my issue and I’m dealing with it, the way that fits us. My husband adjusted and I’m adjusting and that’s life.

I can’t predict the weather but I can adjust accordingly.

3. Sometimes husbands just don’t understand

The great thing about marriage is that two imperfect people are joined together because they are perfect for each other.

Now let’s apply that to real life with limited sleep and not enough caffeine to create a sustainable addiction.

Yea! All of that feel-good, whimsical lovey dovey stuff flies out the window.

As a woman, I have needs.

Sometimes I just need to SLEEP! Sometimes I don’t want to talk. Sometimes I just need help without having to ask for it.

I don’t care about how hard your day was. Or why you think we need more stuff in the garage. Or about your headache.  I’m really sorry but I don’t because I’m not sleeping and I’m forced to stay functioning, meanwhile you get to call in sick.

But I digress.

I understand, men need to be told what we need because they can’t read minds…but still.

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I wanted a family photo; he wanted to catch us off guard

4. Your baby will always be your biggest fan

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Always ready to take selfie with me

Honestly, she is just so full of light and positivity. I literally aspire to be as positive and happy as she is. She is firm in what she wants and makes no apologies about getting her way but she just makes life better.

I couldn’t have imagined a better daughter. I am so proud to be her mother. She is really forgiving and merciful, which is ironic because her name is Mercy. She just makes me want to be better. When I’m happy, she’s ecstatic. When I’m sad, she’s really unsettled.

If that’s what mercy is than no wonder God wants us to share that over judgement.

She loves to have her celebrations. If I do good and I tell her, then she gets really excited. I don’t know if she understands half of the things I tell her, but seeing her genuinely smile along with me is beyond words.

I’m grateful for her love and her unconditional support.

  5. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

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I’m ready for it all

It’s been one hell of a ride and I wouldn’t have it any other way. There were days I honestly didn’t think I would make it. But without God, my husband and my baby girl I don’t know how it would have turned out.

Life happens and we learn and grow from it. I can honestly say that my marriage is stronger. Our goals are now more focused than ever. We have a stronger bond. We really have each other’s backs.

Personally speaking, I know that I’ve come to the realization that my family comes first. Their opinion matters. What I do affects them and what they do affects me. How we treat each other is important.

For example, my daughter believes that yelling is normal… so I’m trying to rectify that, God help us.

Patience is a virtue. I don’t know if I got it yet but it’s a virtue worth having.

I know that I can survive on no sleep. I know that I can achieve any and every goal I set up. I know that my family and I are destined for greatness and that’s where we are headed.

 

I hope you enjoyed this blog post.

What are some things you learned the hard way?

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