Proverbs 31 being the standard,
makes it seem very hard to be the perfect wife. When I got married I thought that I could be this proverbs 31 wife. Two years in, I’m still trying to achieve that goal. It seems like the more I remain married the harder it seems to achieve that goal. I’m not sure what it is but the goal line just seems to get further away.
As I was listening to Pastor Smokie Norful sermon “Roles of A Wife | Rules of Engagement”, I knew there were key characteristics I was forgetting to implement in my quest to be that perfect wife.
What I think he wants
• An on call chef
• business mogul
• a supermodel
• A maid
• A nurse
• A psychologist
• A fitness model
• Be always happy
• never finding faults
• happily fixing issues that arise
• readily taking huge leaps of faith
What I want to do is be the picture of a perfect wife but the truth is most of the time I’m busy being my version of a perfect wife, not what my husband needs but what I think he needs. What he wants
• A woman of faith
• prayer warrior
• his caretaker
• BACK him up
• respect him
Let’s be honest his perfect wife and my perfect wife are two very different people. In fact, if I was smart I would just focus on being his perfect wife. What he wants aligns with the word of God, so why not be just that?
I know why I don’t do it. I don’t do it because I don’t see how giving him what he wants takes care of our bills, my needs or our dreams. What I do see is, my version of being that perfect wife isn’t making things better either. In fact, it’s making it worse. So I might as well be his perfect wife. My version sucks and nobody wants her. I don’t even know why she’s in the picture. She’s terrible and doesn’t exist. I don’t even like her, I don’t know why I want to be her.
I’ll go back to being me. I am his perfect wife, that’s why he married me.
Have you struggled being “perfect”? How did that go?